Truths Of Life To Be Aware Of By 25 Years Of Age.
Essential for meaningful and fulfilling lives.
The first thing you would want to know is about the title of this article. Why have I chosen it as the truths of life by 25 years of age? It could have been 20, 30 or even 40 years.
Let us go a few millennium back; to the ancient times, where life in India was considered to be divided into four stages-
1) Student stage —
In the olden days a person was supposed to leave his house and stay with his Guru to attain spiritual and practical knowledge. The duty of the student was to learn the skills of life and serve his Guru. During this period, he was prepared for his future profession as well family,social and religious life that lay ahead. This stage lasted till 25 years of age.
2) Householder stage —
This stage lasted till 50 years of a person’s life, till the time a person’s skin had wrinkles and his hair turned grey.
3) The last two stages namely the hermit and the ascetic stages constituted the remaining life.In the hermit stage a person used to leave for the forest and taught dharma to those who came to him. In the ascetic stage the person renounced everything and was totally devoted to God.Totally devoid of all attachments, he was virtually merged with God, to be released from the cycle of life and death.
Times have completely changed now. The first two stages of life are still followed, but in this modern world the last two stages of ancient life are completely ignored.
Now too the student life is over by the age of 25 years and our parents and teachers impart us the worldly knowledge.
There are few things or the truths that you should be aware of, after completing your student days.This will make you much happier. Many of these truths apply to later stages in life too, but with the passage of time people gain wisdom after a number of failures.
1) People are selfish –
In this world everyone thinks about himself. People won’t put your needs first; will not be considerate and look after their self-interests. Many of them have no regards for others and love to play victims, looking to gain sympathy.
You need to accept them for the way they are or you will get frustrated and annoyed with their behavior. Don’t talk about what interests them; rather talk about what interests you. Stop doing everything they expect you to do.
In case you can’t get along, just avoid them.
2) You can’t please everyone –
The nature of humanity is to talk. People will always talk, no matter what you decide to do.Some will talk behind your back, while the others would make fun of you on your face.
You will not be able to please everyone and shouldn’t even try to please everyone all the time.If you begin to live your life according to the standards set by other people,you will lose all sense of happiness and enthusiasm.
People tend to enjoy saying things that hurt others. Don’t allow them to impact your hopes and dreams. Never ever give up on your hopes and dreams to make others happy. They are frightened by things that they don’t understand.
Not everyone is going to understand your dreams. Since your journey is unique, you can’t expect everyone to understand your dreams. In this case you will lose your sense of identity trying to please others.
3) Do the hard things in life-
Often people want to take shortcuts to progress in life. This makes the life less fulfilling.You should take decisions that other people aren’t willing to implement.
This will make you grow as a person. Many a time’s people avoid helping, or doing the task that no one wants to do. By not being one of them and instead being a person who chooses to take tough assignments, you will stand out. Example- If you take a difficult client at work and succeed,your boss will take notice of your efforts and this will benefit your career.
You will become much smarter. Taking hard decisions puts your mind in overdrive and you will come out with some great ideas for doing new tasks. This could never have been achieved taking the easy way out.
4) Surround yourself with positive persons -
This will lead to a change in your attitude, leading you to be more confident and energized.Negative people will always affect your attitude negatively.
When you are feeling encouraged, you will accomplish more in life and ultimately be successful.You will have more friends, as positive people are able to attract more friends than negative people. The result of positivism will be always good and lead to happiness.
5) Appreciate what you have-
When you are young you have many good things. God has blessed you with good health,great looks, hope for a better future and many wonderful opportunities that would turn up in your life.
If you appreciate and say “Thank You” for all the wonderful opportunities god has blessed you with, you will be always happy.
One day sit down and prepare a gratitude list. What people already have is good enough. If you want more, certainly go after it, but don’t forget whatever you already have.
6) Always keep learning-
It should be your target to always keep learning in life. This will make you grow as a person,develop your knowledge base and make you outstanding in your work.
The additional skills that you learn will help you in earning more money. Some of the skills will be so useful, that they will enable you to do things quicker, thus saving time and energy.
Curiosity and creative thinking come hand in hand. Learning new things can always trigger new ideas in your field. In the fast paced knowledge based industries; organizations expect the employees to be engaged in personal learning, in order to be adaptable and flexible, for the organization to stay competitive.
Whatever be your age, till the time you are in a job try to learn new skills that are in demand in the job market.
7) Plan for the life ahead-
You should plan for the life ahead by 10, 20, 30 years. Things always keep changing in this fast paced world. There are periods of boom and busts in the industries.
The industry you are in now may not exist a few years down. So always plan and save for the rainy days. Plan and invest wisely in fixed deposits, gold, bonds, stocks and property.
8) Always be patient-
You should never be impatient when the things are not moving as per your expectations.Getting good results take time.
With time things turn out to be better and patience will give you a clear vision of what can be achieved.
Everyone has dreams in this world. When we see other persons becoming successful we wonder as to why we are not successful. This is the time when we turn out to be impatient.
Everyone should remember that their time to bask under the glory of the sun would come too.
9) Good relations take time to build-
Listening is one of the finest tools to have a healthy relationship. When the other person feels being heard, they will feel connected. You should always be genuine and honest.
One of the greatest needs for a good relationship is good communication skills. These are required for a relationship to be healthy and survive.
10) Be productive-
We always confuse being busy with being productive. Focus on what truly matters and let go of what doesn’t.
Track and limit how much time you are spending on tasks. Try giving yourself deadlines and always stick to them.
11) Listen to others-
Our fancy gadgets get in our way of socializing with people and dehumanize us. Don’t hide behind gadgets. Smile often and listen to other people’s story.
12) Avoid pointless arguments-
Most of the arguments we have with other people are unproductive and pointless. Peace is better than being right.
You don’t need to attend to every argument, which you’re invited to.
Set about 15 minutes in a week and think how you are implementing these truths.This will lead you towards becoming a better person in life.
